I see what you're saying and I very well may have a father who fits the archetype you're describing but it's hard to generalize or stereotype because there's so many family dynamics at play when we grow up. Not denying your experience, I'm sure the "alpha male, hard worker" father figure (or parent figure) has had a net negative in some families but in my specific instance, it's brought passion and ownership into other parts of my life (marriage, kids, etc).

It's also made me realize that yes, I want to be there for my kids more than my dad did, but I also have personal goals related to work that I want to accomplish in my life, more macro-level goals. It's also made me more involved in my community because I want more ownership in what's going on around me. It's definitely a balance and you need the self-awareness and time management to finese it.