Your absolutely right. I am so grateful for my washing machines (dishes+clothes). Emotional labor is labor too. Raising children is subsidized and still ridiculously expensive. They're also generally unpaid, and thus don't get counted in GDP statistics. But where more and more people go unmarried, and the marginal cost of adding people to a household is lower than establishing a single person household (making dinner for 4 is easier than 4 people making dinner for 1), we're not even seeing those costs.