I think you’re past the point of picking a job for “me”. You have to pick a job for “us”, which could easily require a safer, less interesting yet more stable choice for you. Kids like stability. Your partner might not be easily able to move. You said you want to be an active participant in their lives. Pick something that is interesting or rewarding enough to do every day yet provides you time and energy for other people.

You can go through life as a singleton, doubleton or family unit. All have strengths and weaknesses and the available options differ for each.