> Permission (especially if its not related to something they were assigned to do) can come across as diverting off course and pulling peoples will towards theirs, more so if the request requires action on their part.
That's so true. I feel like most of the time asking for permission also comes with request to take responsibility for your actions and help. You ask for permission, they have to trust and help you. Too much to ask.
Honestly, I've been living for 25 years and I'm not sure I've EVER seen anybody give permission in this sense to anybody. If it happens, it's something different. Either the person giving permission doesn't care or the person asking for permission really notifying in the form of asking permission. Or somebody didn't have time or energy to think properly. Or was deceived. So on. I don't know, maybe I'm taking in too far. But in any case asking for permission is weak and rude coming from position of lesser authority, and nice otherwise.
Also I should note that this authority dynamic changes with rapid pace from context to context. Everything affects it: one moment you are supposed to be meek subordinate programmer and the other you're expected to be highly qualified professional with key domain knowledge. I belive there can even be dozens conflicting beliefs, each with different strength. Those are in short memory, then there are thousands more withing short reach, and millions possible depending on what happens in the next few seconds.
It means you're are not doomed and can navigate your way out of many difficult social situations and get what you want anyway, regardless of your social status. Most likely your status is fine. Most likely all this dynamics can be circumvented with a few jokes and uplifting remarks.
That's so true. I feel like most of the time asking for permission also comes with request to take responsibility for your actions and help. You ask for permission, they have to trust and help you. Too much to ask.
Honestly, I've been living for 25 years and I'm not sure I've EVER seen anybody give permission in this sense to anybody. If it happens, it's something different. Either the person giving permission doesn't care or the person asking for permission really notifying in the form of asking permission. Or somebody didn't have time or energy to think properly. Or was deceived. So on. I don't know, maybe I'm taking in too far. But in any case asking for permission is weak and rude coming from position of lesser authority, and nice otherwise.
Also I should note that this authority dynamic changes with rapid pace from context to context. Everything affects it: one moment you are supposed to be meek subordinate programmer and the other you're expected to be highly qualified professional with key domain knowledge. I belive there can even be dozens conflicting beliefs, each with different strength. Those are in short memory, then there are thousands more withing short reach, and millions possible depending on what happens in the next few seconds.
It means you're are not doomed and can navigate your way out of many difficult social situations and get what you want anyway, regardless of your social status. Most likely your status is fine. Most likely all this dynamics can be circumvented with a few jokes and uplifting remarks.
Now I think I've contradicted myself somewhere...