I do not think free finite element libraries are representative of commercial software. They usually include a mix of different languages, and that includes lots of Fortran, which is used both in the core (in solvers and linear algebra libraries, for example) and at the highest level for user subroutines. I have seen people using either Fortran or C++ with Abaqus, LS-Dyna or MSC, but nobody writting C (except for some very experimental solvers).

Most users are usually fine with whatever the GUI allows and a bit of Python, but for those of us developing new models, Fortran is probably the most useful language, followed by C++.