For what it's worth, most engineers want absolutely nothing to do with the loudness wars. These are people who've made a career on developing their ears, and the harmonic distortion from limiting the fuck out of a recording sounds even worse to them than it does to the general public.

The problem is that record labels have bought into the idea that a record needs to be outrageously loud in order to compete on radio. And the labels are the ones paying the mastering engineers.