>> would probably not have chosen to be offended under the same circumstances.
It is easy not to be offended when you are in the majority!
Let's try yet another empathy experiment--although I suspect empathy cannot be taught. Imagine going to a professional conference where you are the minority. For example, if you're white, imagine everyone else is black or vice versa. Now imagine the presentation is filled with slides portraying your race in a demeaning or comical way.
When you say this made you uncomfortable, the community leaders say "get over it."
How welcome do you feel? Are you going to tell me with a straight face your answer would be "very welcome!"
Or how about I'm an academic, and also a political conservative/libertarian. That's an extreme minority.
If someone includes an anti-conservative joke on a slide (which has happened), I'm not offended. I have better things to worry about than bad (and sometimes good, but offensive) jokes in a presentation.
Rather than switch to a different example that is not outwardly visible nor nearly so divisive, please answer the original question. Do you feel "very welcome" in the given scenario?
I switched to that example because it is real. But no, I don't think I'd be offended by a racist joke in a set of slides. For instance, comparing one database to a short white basketball player and another database to Shaq?
In this case, there isn't even a sexist joke. The slides say nothing in particular about women. All they did was compare one database to a fat woman dressed as wonder woman and another to a beautiful woman in a bikini. What statement does this make about women?
Your example implies that white people are bad at basketball, just as the slides imply that fat women are unattractive. But implicitly, the standard of comparison makes a statement, too. It makes the statement that women are sex objects who should be judged only on their most superficial characteristics. Men can be judged on their ability to play basketball but when it comes to women, the only standard of value is how sexually attractive they are.
The presentation doesn't make the statement that women should be judged by their sexual attractiveness. It makes the statement that porn stars should be.
It is easy not to be offended when you are in the majority!
Let's try yet another empathy experiment--although I suspect empathy cannot be taught. Imagine going to a professional conference where you are the minority. For example, if you're white, imagine everyone else is black or vice versa. Now imagine the presentation is filled with slides portraying your race in a demeaning or comical way.
When you say this made you uncomfortable, the community leaders say "get over it."
How welcome do you feel? Are you going to tell me with a straight face your answer would be "very welcome!"