I'm pretty sure if you don't think the word creepy has meaning attached to it and don't understand how it's applied, you're very unlikely to be able to build or design a dating site that people (particularly women) are going to find comfortable and will want to use, straight or otherwise.
You've written a lot of comments on this, but I'm reminded of a quote from Steve Jobs: "Do you create anything, or just criticize others work and belittle their motivations?"
philwelch, you hit the nail on the head, I couldn't figure out why I was so agitated by her comments, but I'm pretty sure this is it.
Her ratio of value to criticism is too low for me I think. Further agitating me is that she has the top comment. I just can't imagine why someone would upvote it.
It's one thing to offer a perspective and perhaps some constructive criticism, but at some point you have to realize you've stated your point and just step back a little. It's the repeated comments for me. Jobs said that in exchange to a long and tiresome email thread--he actually took the guy seriously at first and responded straightforwardly to his points.
Now, I understand it causes you fear or unease, probably more unease than fear, but just because it causes you those feelings does not mean it causes others to have those feelings.
If this guy has success getting 7,000 people using the site, and only 1,000 of them are actually using it, he is doing a lot right.
If the site had a stellar brand and it was really clear what it was doing, your creep factor would probably lower significantly.
IMO, he should ignore your opinion and keep building. It looks like he is on to something to me.
