When I say doing things, I mean things out in the world.

During those you might chat to people casually.

People like people that do things and turn up, so many people do little and aren't interested in going out and turning up to things.

Do stuff and you become more interesting.

Mostly people talk about themselves so ask them what they do and be interested, when they ask you what you do you will have done a bunch of stuff.

Get out there and enrich yourself with experience, make yourself too busy to be lonely.

That’s exactly the point!

There is no _action_ towards the claimed goal that wouldn’t make the problem worse!

I know that both from personal experience and from years of observation of other people.

The only _action_ is to switch focus completely away from this problem to something more meaningful.

You may be doing the same thing from the outside, but the point is your approach to life is the issue. Your mindset itself filters experience.

This is the issue with "empirics", there's often very real intangibles that deal with fundamentally subjective things.

From the outside of course, you point to all the 'concrete' things, but it's really the intangibles that matter.