Which is more indicative of psychological damage, really?
Enjoying sexual pleasure and comfort in a world otherwise not providing you any, or trying to live in supposedly "stable and robust mental health", defined as "being a father, small-business owner, being a dependable man in a hat riding slow commuter trains" with "mindscapes perfumed with thoughts of stocks, bonds, lawncare" "at doctor’s appointments and children’s piano recitals", when none of these things are attainable, or even desirable?
Is this lifestyle really a matter of being "psychically defenseless" or simply facing the reality of being ignored, unneeded and unwanted, living in a world that has never attended to, accepted, appreciated, encouraged or loved your self and its sexuality, ever, or like you always needed in your soul?
A world in which some gloat at their sexual power and freedom of choice, treating you like an option? It's love and war then. "I won't be your first choice? Then you will never be mine, or my millionth." It's a cold war of sexual status and insecurity, of the sacred and profane, of different upbringings and moral convictions, of regret and expectations. The plain brutality of sexual selection.
> Certain social systems had failed
"The child who is not embraced by the village will goon on its own to feel its warmth"
And now the village of late empathizers and never-loners lately realizes that they, too, might burn in the (goon)fuel. What they don't see are unaccounted and unforgiven (or unforgivable) deeds and insufferable realities of unfulfilled or unrequited love, which for some are deadly.
Well the villagers won't burn in any imaginary goonfuel. Only real fire destroys.
As for the child, they came to realise too late, that the society doesn't owe them love. Humanity isn't so different from animals and insects, where also only a few succeed in passing on their genes and the rest just die.
Enjoying sexual pleasure and comfort in a world otherwise not providing you any, or trying to live in supposedly "stable and robust mental health", defined as "being a father, small-business owner, being a dependable man in a hat riding slow commuter trains" with "mindscapes perfumed with thoughts of stocks, bonds, lawncare" "at doctor’s appointments and children’s piano recitals", when none of these things are attainable, or even desirable?
Is this lifestyle really a matter of being "psychically defenseless" or simply facing the reality of being ignored, unneeded and unwanted, living in a world that has never attended to, accepted, appreciated, encouraged or loved your self and its sexuality, ever, or like you always needed in your soul?
A world in which some gloat at their sexual power and freedom of choice, treating you like an option? It's love and war then. "I won't be your first choice? Then you will never be mine, or my millionth." It's a cold war of sexual status and insecurity, of the sacred and profane, of different upbringings and moral convictions, of regret and expectations. The plain brutality of sexual selection.
> Certain social systems had failed
"The child who is not embraced by the village will goon on its own to feel its warmth"
And now the village of late empathizers and never-loners lately realizes that they, too, might burn in the (goon)fuel. What they don't see are unaccounted and unforgiven (or unforgivable) deeds and insufferable realities of unfulfilled or unrequited love, which for some are deadly.