Maybe in her own mind she doesn't want to take it even though it is earned. That is a common problem, and as a psychologist she should well be aware of that. (I believe that the problem is more common amount women - but I'm not the psychologist she is, and so it would be wrong for me to tell her truths in her field)

Even if she claims it, there's no end of people who will reject it, argue it, make her prove it, etc. I think that's one of the points: nothing she can do can truly make her seen as being worthy of it broadly enough to matter.

That is true for everyone though.

Do you not understand that it's much more true for women than for men?

Do you not get that there are things that may be possible for everyone, but are much, much more common for a clearly-defined subset of the population?

Elsewhere I already posted https://news.ycombinator.com/context?id=43716383

I don't recognise her requirements for "being Technical". I think she feels like an outsider because she doesn’t meet her own arbitrary standard for what "being Technical" means.