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If this is sarcastic and you mean the opposite, then I think that you don't have empathy for women receiving unwanted attention because you yourself never received unwanted attention and that is sad and I empathize with that feeling of sadness and shame. I think you should reconsider some parts of your belief system if it prompts such a thought that breaks through to be written in a comment for others to consume.


I think most women are aware that if they go to a nightclub and wear their most attractive outfit, they will receive a lot of attention. And yes, if you receive a lot of attention, some of that will be unwanted. Adults realize that and deal with it.

Don't confuse empathy with treating people like idiots or children and putting them into positions of victims.

I have received unwanted attention in the past. I didn't cry about it because shit happens.


There's unwanted "I wasn't interested in that person, next", and there's unwanted "this is a potentially dangerous and scary situation". On the surface, it's unhelpful to lump the two in together.

But the line between 1 and 2 is fuzzier for women than for men, hence the "choose the bear" meme. I've received unwanted attention but never felt remotely threatened or endangered by it, you won't hear that from many women though.

And further. When basically everyone had to play the game, the proportion of actual bad actors was small. Lots of "meh, no thanks, next", not much hassle or danger. However. When a lot of milder actors take themselves out of the pool voluntarily (online being satisfactory, or something like that) you end up with a worse ratio. Basically if fewer guys are approaching women full stop, the ones that do are more likely to be trouble of one kind or another.




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