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Stammtisch might help a little but for me, loneliness comes from lack of a lover. It's not the sex, it's the support, hugs, caresses, pillow talk, companionship that, at least I, need.

I had a weekly drink up for 15yrs and seeing friends 3-4 times a week for dinner and activities. It was 100x better than not but not sufficient to cure the loneliness of not having a life companion.

Of course good relationship > single > bad relationship






This is what many people in relationships, especially many of those who have always had an easy time getting into relationships, don't get. How much their partner is a support for them and how much more exhausting it can be to live without a partner to support each other. Of course that is also a kind of work and effort needed, but each gives as they can and when they can and if that works out in sufficient amount, then the relationship has a good chance of surviving.

Worse still, bashing on "incels" is totally fine.

People bash on incels because they blame women for all the problems in their life.

I guess some do? But I'm not sure if it's a defining characteristic.

The word has been associated with the worst kind of involuntary celibate people for a very long time. It’s a defining characteristic to many people when they use that term.



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