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> For example, the book "The Ethical Slut" the author literally describes raping people

Wow, I don't remember that. I'll have to re-read it.

> I also feel it inevitably hurts people when you are more excited about a new partner than them

It certainly happens.

Sometimes I think I'm doomed to be unhappy because I just want too much out of life. I can't imagine settling down, but I don't want flings or hookups without emotion, I want to feel a lot of emotion with people freely.

The first possibility is that, as the Internet keeps saying, I'm a shit person and I'm not ready to date. Most people seem to start dating around half my age so even if this is true, I just reject it. The second is that I just haven't met the person who is such a perfect match that I would sacrifice a lifetime of possibility to stay with them forever. I don't imagine that partner exists. Given that I'm going to crush on people who aren't my partner(s), I'd rather be upfront about it.

The third possibility is that I really am a sociopath and I just want the wrong things. I ask people and they say I'm not a narcissistic or a sociopath. I feel empathy, I don't try to control people.

Shrug?






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