I think the concept of lifetime bans from big tech platforms needs to be reevaluated, but there is not much difference between Google's "trip wires" and Apple's "red lines": your app is not allowed to exist either way.

Patreon faces an existential crisis right now: use in-app purchases or the app will be removed. Game streaming wasn't banned right up until it was. No amount of support has helped with these red lines - not even the committee they allegedly created for developers to challenge the rules. Their support has only helped in the absurd cases, like demanding WordPress implement IAPs or rejecting dictionaries for containing swear words.