I was in a similar situation. Couldn't keep a consistent job, couldn't keep a long term relationship. Jumped from one thing to another again and again. Struggled with poor emotional regulation (but hid it very well).
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my early 30s and things started to turn around. I've kept up the same job for longer than I ever had before, I'm in a long term relationship and I am better able to handle the general ups and downs of life. Things definitely aren't perfect. I still have to handle forgetfulness, distraction, lack of focus and so on, but getting diagnosed helped me immensely.
Talking to medical professionals of all kinds can only help you. Maybe they find some simple, fixable cause. If they don't, you haven't really lost anything.
Yeah this. Sounded like a specific flavor of ADHD I’ve been lucky enough to build a toolset and team around my ineptness in a bunch of places including memory.
Ironically poster sounds pretty smart and good communicator
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my early 30s and things started to turn around. I've kept up the same job for longer than I ever had before, I'm in a long term relationship and I am better able to handle the general ups and downs of life. Things definitely aren't perfect. I still have to handle forgetfulness, distraction, lack of focus and so on, but getting diagnosed helped me immensely.
Talking to medical professionals of all kinds can only help you. Maybe they find some simple, fixable cause. If they don't, you haven't really lost anything.