This wasn't sarcastic at all—any driver of a car is far more dangerous than one in a plane. 9/11 is essentially meaningless in the shadow of auto deaths (to provide a direct comparison). I can't get a firm number on number of plane fatalities in the US (or auto fatalities worldwide), but 9/11 alone would amount to about only 0.04% of total vehicle fatalities in the US since 2000.

if i live to be 90, i'd wish to die quietly in my sleep like my grandpa.

not screaming in terror like his passengers.

Both scenarios are unlikely. Most likely it will be a long time of being tortured by doctors trying everything in the book to squeeze a few more days of money from your insurance.

No passengers.

https://aviation-safety.net/wikibase/389197

A very large proportion of private aviation accidents involve only the people in the aircraft.

Roads concentrate traffic near other people. A vehicle running off the road is much more likely to hit something than a plane falling out of the sky.