@contingencies was telling a personal anecdote about his own life, which happened to involve meeting someone while that someone was still in the closet.
Unprovoked, you decided to take umbrage with this. There was no reason to do so.
In doing that, you dragged the thread off-topic and continued to escalate.
That was wrong. You shouldn't conduct yourself in such a fashion.
Sorry dang. I tried to explain myself clearly without making things personal, but there's no rescuing this kind of engagement once it starts. The only winning move is not to play. I'll do better.
> Unprovoked, you decided to take umbrage with this. There was no reason to do so.
I found it curious that they mentioned it, and described why I thought it was inappropriate. Contrast this with them, who presented their own off-topic anecdote without justification. The original “provocation” as you call it was by them, by presenting someone’s sexual orientation as a curiosity like some kind of carnival barker.
> In doing that, you dragged the thread off-topic and continued to escalate.
Asking for clarification and pleading for adherence to the site guidelines is no escalation. It’s a conversation. You and they are the ones making it adversarial, then gaslighting me for my original points made.
> That was wrong. You shouldn't conduct yourself in such a fashion.
I disagree, but even if your points were justifiable, which I don’t believe they are, you are dogpiling by framing the issue as you have done. That was and is wrong. You shouldn’t conduct yourself in such a fashion.
