Aside from faulty condoms, you should maybe try the difference, how it feels without ..
In general a safe solution is badly needed. The pill for women is hardly a perfect solution either, it massivly messes up the natural hormon balance in the body. And so far I doubt that this here will be side effect free nor reliable, but it might have potential.
A woman who's worried about getting pregnant can monitor her period and take an abortion pill if it's late. A man, on the other hand, can do nothing to avoid the cost of a child besides trying to persuade her. There are women who try to get pregnant against their partner's wishes.
My point is the woman can shut the door and the horse magically teleports back into the stable but the man can't. So men can benefit from being in control of their own fertility.
And that is the reason male birth control most likely will never replace the other variants. Which woman wants to rely on the man taking care of birth control?
One that trusts her partner? What kind of question is this.
I can't imagine my long term partner, now fiancee, wouldn't trust me with something so important to us both. Why even be in a relationship at this point.
one in a stable long-term relationship where she and her partner trust each other to be responsible when it comes to risky or costly actions that impact both of them
(pregnancy is one, sure, but there's also things like blowing half your yearly salary on a sports car on a whim)
And, as we all know, becoming a father when you do not wish to is completely without consequences, making the entire ordeal risk-free. Male birth control pill is useless, QED.
That's a bit of a hot take ... in the same vein it's also solved by abstinence, but that's hogwash for much the same reason as your statement.
Not only do condoms have a negative effect on pleasure, they also require more planning, and even with proper use (which in itself is less easy than it sounds), they can still fail (they can tear, or come off at inoppprtune moments).
I bet we’ll hear a lot about male birth control by female groups.
It is based on a misunderstanding of the problem to solve. For women, the problem is having undesired children, but once they have, they know they are the mother. For men, the problem is the woman having undesired children.
It reverses the logic entirely: Since marriage triggers automatic fatherhood of the children to be born, whether the man is on the pill or not, male birth control is ineffective in that it only decreases the probability of children being his, but that’s only 70% of the cases of birth during marriage.
A really effective method would be automatic paternity tests. But everyone goes nuts when this is evoked, precisely because of the ridiculous extent of treachery in our society. As a society, we prefer to bury that problem and ask responsible men to raise the children of the other ones.
>but that’s only 70% of the cases of birth during marriage.
The idea that 30% of childbirths are not by the child's supposed father is a misnomer: it's much closer to 1-2%[0]. Certainly, if you've been in a long-term relationship and have been cheated on, you'd probably be very scarred and think that you can never trust women, you can never know if the kids are actually yours, etc. And I can understand that sentiment, especially since in Western society, all the stages leading up to marriage, and all the negative experiences people have, often lead them to become very cynical. But trust me, once you hit around 30, interest in sex starts to decrease, and people are too wrapped up in work, family, and general social obligations to even think about sleeping around. It does happen that two people who are unsatisfied in their marriages, who are good friends and happen to spend a lot of time together, might end up having an affair, but rarely would that lead to another kid, especially since the woman would be extra careful about pregnancy.
Now, I'll grant that if someone is mentally unstable, or its even a power thing, its entirely possible that a woman could cheat on her husband, lie about being on birth control, and get herself pregnant to another man because its like the only way she can get off. But that's probably relatively rare, and there are numerous other cases where the reason is far more mundane, perhaps a woman feels pressured to get married to a man while she has another lover, but her groom is more financially stable and can provide for her better. Or maybe she is just crazy, sleeping with a bunch of different guys without telling any of them about the others, and as soon as she gets pregnant she just tells the most gullible one that its his. But its still 1 in 30 at most. Not something you should think about, unless its too obvious to ignore.
If you are so sure that it’s only 1-2%, then why are people irritated (to the point of burning things) when we suggest automatic paternity tests?
It should be a non-issue.
But let me guess, you are going to find the weakest word I have ever said and aggressively attack me on that?
The proof is in the pudding (it’s also in numerous other proxy statistics which are much more reliable than your study): You do not dare starting automatic paternity tests, and you are much happier asking men to emasculate themselves way before ever questioning women’s sincerity.
Well, guess what happens when something cannot be questioned.
