In that case the button changes color before sending, making it clear whether the message will be encrypted or not. (I have disabled the SMS fallback, which is indeed problematic.)
TRIM isn't really a command so much as it is a performance hint.
Even at the drive level, deallocating the space used by a file is not the same as erasing it, and actually erasing every flash block that may still contain data from the file would be very expensive for SSDs to implement (both in terms of performance overhead, and in terms of burning out the flash sooner).