Attractive men DON'T have to deal with the same kind of shit, in general, because they are not a minority. They are not in a minority with social precedents to keep them down, which is what this article is all about. Institutionalized sexualization of women through teasing and joking is pretty common. This piece is trying to get you to where you try to understand what it's like.
Most of us have wondered if our bulge was big enough - imagine if it was judged daily, by every oncoming woman, in every meeting. Imagine if you were constantly teased about getting a boner, and people acted as if it were normal.
I imagine some people around here aren't very good at imagining, are too literal, and hence react badly to this sort of thing.
Maybe women perceive men as being sexually discriminating because they only receive sexual comments from men. When I try to think about it, I (as a man) also receive much more sexual comments from men. Maybe it is simply that men are much more open talking about sex, and when we do it with everybody, men and women alike, but when women hear it, they think it has something to do with them being women...
I don't know if I'm correct, generally, but in my social circles, we joke about sexual stuff a lot. (With friends, of course, not at workplace.)
My general impression is that women will receive comments from other women that are generally different to the comments from men. And while these female-to-female comments may not be sexual per se they are not always going to be 100% positive when a women is trying to do something non-traditional.
Basically some other women will often be just as discouraging and as sexist as some men. They will reinforce the same strict gender stereotypes for the same illogical reasons as the men.
> They will reinforce the same strict gender stereotypes
What if they are just voicing their opinions?!?
I had a girlfriend that was very "stereotypical" - I practically had to beg her after every meal no to go to the kitchen to clean up, but to stay with me at the table and just talk and relax. Is she wrong by being who she is, just because she is "reinforcing illogical stereotypes"?
People are different. Be yourself, hang out with people who accept you for who you are. Let other people be.
A valid question but I'm going to make the judgement call and say that opinions that take the form:
"You should not do A because you are a member of group Y and Y's aren't good at or don't do A" are not okay.
Your girlfriend was probably quite satisfied with a kitchen that had been promptly cleaned and that made her happy.
However if she ever voiced the opinion, 'You should help me clean up', to your younger sister then that wouldn't seem okay to me.
I've had to put up with quite a lot from women of all kinds and I'm not even that attractive.
I'm not going to say more, since I will get called a pussy and a bitch.
But lets please stop pretending that only men are perverts and that all sexual discrimination and indecent behavior towards other people comes from men.
Women are inherently, inescapably what you fear being called. Try to imagine how that must feel, to have the worst insult people around you can imagine to be "I'm like you."
Yeah, thanks - I do try to do the right thing. But that doesn't mean I'm a pushover. You can be alpha and still be a nice guy, it's just how you deal with those who -aren't- nice that matters.
Most of us have wondered if our bulge was big enough - imagine if it was judged daily, by every oncoming woman, in every meeting. Imagine if you were constantly teased about getting a boner, and people acted as if it were normal.
I imagine some people around here aren't very good at imagining, are too literal, and hence react badly to this sort of thing.