> is not deeply insulting or unforgivably disrespectful: It's a mandate from management.

What kind of logic is this? Is your boss deciding what's dignified or respectful for you? This way of interaction sure is still as disrespectful. The blame is just not (all) on your coworkers then.

The assessment of "unforgivable disrespectful" doesn't rely on actionability, nor requires naive attribution of an offense.