I grew up with the society value of live and let live (if ye do no harm, do what ye will). Not that it applies to everything (it is relative not absolute) but as a rule of thumb.
Yet there are societies where my wife would have to conform in the sense of having to hide her facial hair due to dominant religion even though she herself is an atheist. If we were to go to such society, we'd have to conform.
Conforming is sometimes necessary, but a trait of assimilation. It isn't as black or white as it is though. There are parts in USA where you cannot be openly gay, and there are parts where you can.
There are also two sexual preferences which have to conform in the West as they're not accepted by society: children and animals as sexual preference. I agree with not accepting these since they're predatory instead of equal terms. However it is relevant to mention as people with these preferences (as well as psychopathy) have to mask it.
Meanwhile, homosexuality is a spectrum as well. There are shades of gray (nuances) between gay and straight, bisexuality being one of them. To put it differently: one does not have to be either. In an ideal world, I'd have grown up openly bisexuality or at least bicurious.
A lot of undiagnosed women with autism conform/assimilate by masking. It is considered harmful on the longer term (as you put: the short term might be beneficial). You get people who are acting as if they're something they're not. And they will fail their act. Then you get a situation like Girl, Interrupted. A temper tantrum, diagnosis borderline (what I believe to be often a undiagnosed autism among females).
The M.O. should be you are yourself at the very least at home. And that requires acceptance and embracing of how you are as a starting point. Masking is going to be required more tgan enough, it shouldn't be the target goal.
I'd like to end my post with an open question: Do you believe we as Western society benefit from people with a sexual preference for children, animals, and psychopaths in general masking themselves?
Yet there are societies where my wife would have to conform in the sense of having to hide her facial hair due to dominant religion even though she herself is an atheist. If we were to go to such society, we'd have to conform.
Conforming is sometimes necessary, but a trait of assimilation. It isn't as black or white as it is though. There are parts in USA where you cannot be openly gay, and there are parts where you can.
There are also two sexual preferences which have to conform in the West as they're not accepted by society: children and animals as sexual preference. I agree with not accepting these since they're predatory instead of equal terms. However it is relevant to mention as people with these preferences (as well as psychopathy) have to mask it.
Meanwhile, homosexuality is a spectrum as well. There are shades of gray (nuances) between gay and straight, bisexuality being one of them. To put it differently: one does not have to be either. In an ideal world, I'd have grown up openly bisexuality or at least bicurious.
My problem with transgender is very specific: fertile women are attractive to males because of their fertility which is deeply related to their behavior (look, smell, act, etc). This is something transgender females cannot (yet) offer and it firmly puts them outside the definition of being female _for_me_. However, it is irrelevant to me nowadays as I am (the cliché) married with children. I believe it is the root underlying issue related to acceptance though, akin to con-artism. For me it is. But that is my problem, not theirs.
A lot of undiagnosed women with autism conform/assimilate by masking. It is considered harmful on the longer term (as you put: the short term might be beneficial). You get people who are acting as if they're something they're not. And they will fail their act. Then you get a situation like Girl, Interrupted. A temper tantrum, diagnosis borderline (what I believe to be often a undiagnosed autism among females).
The M.O. should be you are yourself at the very least at home. And that requires acceptance and embracing of how you are as a starting point. Masking is going to be required more tgan enough, it shouldn't be the target goal.
I'd like to end my post with an open question: Do you believe we as Western society benefit from people with a sexual preference for children, animals, and psychopaths in general masking themselves?