Tolerance in these terms are like "I would never let my kid to be gay, but others, fine whatever". And that still comes in a range from "get thrown stones at for holding hands with another dude" to "allowed to give a goodbye kiss to your partner in public". Everyone's limits are obviously different, and one can perceive either of those as "trying to force personal views on others". Reading those norms isn't easy until you get accustomed to the locals and have bar chats with them.