I think it does change your status. If you go on a date a pick a girl up in a Hyundai and test her with an Android phone many will have a different opinion than if you text with apple and pick her up in a audi.
Being rejected by someone who lets brand-loyalty to billion dollar companies dictate their dating preferences isn't even 'a blessing in disguise'. It's just a plain and simple blessing.
That's secondary/high school level stuff, but sure, it happens. Many teens think like this, and they they grow out of it - that's part of the process. At least most do.
I’m not a part of app dating world, but from my understanding the way these apps work is a series of snap judgements. Android vs iPhone is but one of these. I don’t think the problem is really about Android or iPhone at all, but rather that we live in a reality where people make snap value judgements on these apps based on limited information very quickly, and it just so happens that Android/iPhone is one of those factors.
This kind of shows how out of touch we get when we make 6 figures.
Android or Iphone shows wealth? A $1000 dollar purchase for something you use daily is supposed to be expensive?
But when you are in poverty or lower-middle class, $1000 is a lot of money.
It just doesnt have the same meaning when you have money. I imagine the dating world has a bunch of things like this because you meet people of different classes.
The mystery to me is why a guy's reaction to it would be "damn I wish I had an iPhone so that girl would like me" and not "I'm glad I don't have an iPhone so I can weed out these nutjobs".
Because the dating scene is like the hiring scene. There are 100 applicants for every position and in that situation it makes sense to use very noisy low value signals that are cheap.
And just like hiring where there are great employers with silly hiring practices there are great partners with silly filtering rules. And you can cut yourself off from a large part of the market or play the game.
Unlike the potential employer or partner I'm not going to use a silly filter as my filter.
I think you're giving far too much credit to the reasoning abilities of people who filter their dates this way. They're not carefully coming up with heuristics to optimize their "application process". It's just plain ordinary shallowness.
But that aside, your entire analogy is based on the idea that you need to "win" iPhone Girl. What makes her worth winning, and why doesn't she need to win you?
You're allowed to have criteria too. One of mine is that I won't be with someone who has poor judgement. It's the reason I don't date women who are into astrology, or choose their partners based on the brand of their phone.
To use your analogy, iPhone Girl is a job that pays $30K a year while demanding 70 hours per week. That's not good enough for me, I don't care how nice her campus is.
It might changed perceived status by people who can't afford the illusion. (It wont change the way they talk, which is a dead giveaway to people within that class.)
If you can't easily afford an iphone or Audi, someone who can lease an audi and have a payment plan on an iphone looks like they have money.
Where once you make 6 figures, these seem like just another car/phone. Heck, when you buy cheap veblen goods like an Audi/iphone, it makes you look like you are compensating for your lack of income. Even 250k cars are barely impressive to a 6 fig earner because they can afford it too.
To a 6 fig earner, a hyundai and android are just the best tools for the job.
But iPhones are so common how it is something special anymore?
When I see someone with something that is not an iPhone I instantly become curious to find out what phone it is and why they didn't get an iPhone.
