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> Accept pain.

Now this is something I can get behind (:

But for the rest, I think we are not on the same page w/regard to most of what I was trying to say.

I guess you took my text to mean we should all tiptoe around everyone else's feelings all the time, to the point of absurdity ­— everyone gets a participation trophy, and nobody is allowed to acknowledge harsh reality, etc.

I actually come from the other direction: failure is real, pain is common, so why add more to that pile for others? Why give people more reasons to feel bad about themselves through some choice of words?

I suppose there's some aspect of "I waded through shit to get where I am, so you should too — it'll be good for you", and that seems ... off, to me. We are all wading through shit all the time already. Different kinds for different people. So maybe throw a rope from time to time, if you've got one.

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Aside: I don't think this is about young people these days, or political-correctness. This is about having empathy and broader perspective.




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