Modern women want emotionally intelligent and kind men and are then stereotyped, blamed, and gaslit when they don't accept immature and manipulative men instead.
Emotionally intelligent and kind men also want emotionally intelligent and kind women.
I don't want to say much more beyond this, but I don't think that ideal is the standard behavior for either sex. The common person wants someone better than them and they're not entitled to it.
that’s interesting, I’ve always wanted people who were complementary to me, not strictly “better” - I want people I can learn from, and I hope to reciprocate and be someone my partner can learn from in turn.
Talking about differences between genders lands you in hot water quickly nowadays. People may simply wish not to discuss it or think it should not be discussed, hence the downvotes.
Men are famous for hitting on women. Men are even more famous for doing this behind screens, like thru DMs or Tinder.
Women WILL be pursued by every man that wants them. Then, the women already has loads of guys who aren't at the top echelon of attractiveness, so naturally when THEY initiate, it's to people who wouldn't initiate with them.
It's literally the same reason you could easily see dudes trying to swipe on women better than them: people want to date someone "out of their league"
Your comment is deliberately omitting the other half, and I'm open to correction: while they might want the former, what is more desirable, is higher social status, regardless of emotional profile. Kind men who are not socially respected, and who do not offer resource security are largely sidelined as uninteresting. With good reason, too.
