Of course they push back. You can't expect to express your opinion without them expressing theirs. Don't they have a right to as well, or is that yours, exclusively?
"I love the new Marvel film" "Eh, I didn't think it was that great". Why is the 2nd person in the equation not allowed to express their opinion?
It's only when it turns into an argument, where both parties refuse to accept the differing opinion of the other party that things go awry. Or frequently as I find with friends, they're prepared to try to change my opinion but aren't prepared to discuss it for as long as I am, where they get upset & overly emotional and it therefore turns into an argument.
Some people have a hard time separating the idea that's being attacked from themselves; personal attacks are not okay. "I don't think people should vote for x for y reasons" is a lot cleaner than "I can't believe you'd vote for x, what kind of person are you".
I was that person. Stopped it, better off for it. I realized how annoying that behaviour is. Nowadays i respond: "Ah, okay." Whats the value in disagreeing about taste? Negative. I remember how hurt i was in the past, when i showed people music i love and they dismissed it.
I even stopped wanting to be right all the time, since i grew tired of arguing over trivia. I think i disentangled my knowledge/smarts from how i feel about myself.
"I love the new Marvel film" "Eh, I didn't think it was that great". Why is the 2nd person in the equation not allowed to express their opinion?
It's only when it turns into an argument, where both parties refuse to accept the differing opinion of the other party that things go awry. Or frequently as I find with friends, they're prepared to try to change my opinion but aren't prepared to discuss it for as long as I am, where they get upset & overly emotional and it therefore turns into an argument.
Some people have a hard time separating the idea that's being attacked from themselves; personal attacks are not okay. "I don't think people should vote for x for y reasons" is a lot cleaner than "I can't believe you'd vote for x, what kind of person are you".