Meditate. www.artofliving.org- their basic part 1 course is a great place to start, or the Sahaj samadhi meditation course.
Let go of the desires- they are at the root of the feeling of despondency. It’s not like fulfilling one’s desires is a path to happiness. Enough successful people are miserable for us to know that that is not the answer to the problem.
Your life is bigger than success and failure.
Stop thinking about yourself- what about me, etc. That’s the formula for depression. Start thinking of how you can make the world a better place. That will give you a renewed vision for your life.
And whatever goals you do set, action the small stuff first. Take a small goal, like, I will wake up by x time tomorrow. And just focus on that one goal. One thing at a time. Baby steps. Don’t overwhelm yourself with big goals and big plans, and then curse yourself for not living upto them. It’s a recipe for frustration. Small goals, and go for consistent accomplishment of said goal for a sustained period of time, like say, 7 days. And then increase gradually. Just do this much for now.
Finally- if you google this, there will be countless examples of successful people who were late bloomers. Some even in their 60/70s! Sometimes, things happen which are outside of our control and we can’t really blame ourselves for the way things turned out. So, don’t be hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself and, let yourself off the hook.
Whether we succeed or fail, one day we are all going to be dead and gone. It doesn’t matter anyway. But first, to get outside of this pattern of self blame and frustration, take up small achievable goals, and be consistent in them for short periods of time. That will gain you some self confidence, and if you start meditating, a fresh bunch of ideas will simply flow into your life. All will be well. Trust and have faith that your problems are getting solved, and there is a power with you that is taking you through all the problems. You are not alone. You are never given something that you cannot handle.
Have faith. Lots of love.
Let go of the desires- they are at the root of the feeling of despondency. It’s not like fulfilling one’s desires is a path to happiness. Enough successful people are miserable for us to know that that is not the answer to the problem.
Your life is bigger than success and failure.
Stop thinking about yourself- what about me, etc. That’s the formula for depression. Start thinking of how you can make the world a better place. That will give you a renewed vision for your life.
And whatever goals you do set, action the small stuff first. Take a small goal, like, I will wake up by x time tomorrow. And just focus on that one goal. One thing at a time. Baby steps. Don’t overwhelm yourself with big goals and big plans, and then curse yourself for not living upto them. It’s a recipe for frustration. Small goals, and go for consistent accomplishment of said goal for a sustained period of time, like say, 7 days. And then increase gradually. Just do this much for now.
Finally- if you google this, there will be countless examples of successful people who were late bloomers. Some even in their 60/70s! Sometimes, things happen which are outside of our control and we can’t really blame ourselves for the way things turned out. So, don’t be hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself and, let yourself off the hook. Whether we succeed or fail, one day we are all going to be dead and gone. It doesn’t matter anyway. But first, to get outside of this pattern of self blame and frustration, take up small achievable goals, and be consistent in them for short periods of time. That will gain you some self confidence, and if you start meditating, a fresh bunch of ideas will simply flow into your life. All will be well. Trust and have faith that your problems are getting solved, and there is a power with you that is taking you through all the problems. You are not alone. You are never given something that you cannot handle. Have faith. Lots of love.