Always be kind to yourself. You can be stern too. But always kind. ADHD can be a lot for some NT people and your wife has unreasonable expectations about what you are and aren’t capable of in a given day. Your partner seems like they try to understand you from a NT lens and that is bound to create a big disconnect. I know I have my relationship flaws but a little open understanding and empathy can bring two people so much closer in their shared view.
> Always be kind to yourself. You can be stern too. But always kind.
You’re right, and this is something I often forget to do.
You’re also right that my wife looks at things through a NT lens, and I often wonder if I wouldn’t too if I was NT. I don’t blame her at all, but it undoubtedly creates friction that seems unhelpful or unnecessary.
Thanks for the kind words and reminder to be kind.
