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Health issues and abuse (largely separate issue) are a big part of my story. I've been recovering from both, but at high cost -- like I'm deeply in debt and being evicted from my apartment. Perhaps not the best place from which to be giving "money" advice (not that this is really that). In my case, I'm clear my finances would be far worse if I had not recovered my health, that my current fairly dire situation is still an improvement over what I would face with conventional treatments/accepting the problem. I'm still trying to figure out how best to share information on how I accomplished that. It's possibly stupid (and often goes over very badly) to try to offer encouragement in that regard given the large gap between that encouragement and my ability to adequately convey what I did.

Suffice it to say you have my sympathies and agreement.



Thanks for stepping forth to respond.

I... without trying too hard to find my own words -- understand, or experience for myself, the difficulty in trying to communicate about such a situation.

These days, I no longer try too hard, and I tend to keep things brief, myself. Only if someone seems both genuinely interested and capable of understanding, will I willingly go further. (I still kick myself for those times when I slip and say more than my intuition tells me is wise.)

I also should qualify my comment by saying that I don't want to cast myself and the worst of victims.

Such experiences are so personal. And it's difficult when someone wants to "lay them out on the table" with a measuring stick, and probably also whatever brand of Scotch tape they happen to carry.

:-)


Agreed: Trying to play "who's the bigger victim" does no one any good. Just saying that one can heal more than most people seem to be aware and I try to gently spread the word, where possible. Even though that journey has been quite the challenge, I feel it has been well worth it.




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