I wonder if your personal situation is an example of the changes we’ve seen with the increasingly central role online dating has on individuals matching with potential partners.
The article details how men match far less frequently than women, with most matches by women for males enjoyed by only a small population of highly desired males.
Highly desired males have a far greater selection of females to choose from than average males, and would be far more likely to enjoy the benefits without the relationship commitment.
Your being ghosted immediately following matching or their failed efforts at immediate physical intimacy may be an indicator that you are only pursuing highly desired males.
If so, then maybe you are caught in loop where your initial choices in highly desirable males have a ‘cereal aisle syndrome’ or Netflix scrolling problem in selecting you.
To be blunt, maybe visually you are an 8 striving to match with a 10?
Getting beyond just the visual and to the substantial requires in person meeting for most males to void being filtered out.
I can’t really offer any advice other than keep your ‘attack surface area’ high to increase opportunities for serendipity!
Don’t underestimate serendipity.
And just surf the waves life sends your way.
Good luck and I hope you are happy and full of purpose regardless of relationship and kid status.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8600582/
The article details how men match far less frequently than women, with most matches by women for males enjoyed by only a small population of highly desired males.
Highly desired males have a far greater selection of females to choose from than average males, and would be far more likely to enjoy the benefits without the relationship commitment.
Your being ghosted immediately following matching or their failed efforts at immediate physical intimacy may be an indicator that you are only pursuing highly desired males.
If so, then maybe you are caught in loop where your initial choices in highly desirable males have a ‘cereal aisle syndrome’ or Netflix scrolling problem in selecting you.
To be blunt, maybe visually you are an 8 striving to match with a 10?
Getting beyond just the visual and to the substantial requires in person meeting for most males to void being filtered out.
I can’t really offer any advice other than keep your ‘attack surface area’ high to increase opportunities for serendipity!
Don’t underestimate serendipity.
And just surf the waves life sends your way.
Good luck and I hope you are happy and full of purpose regardless of relationship and kid status.