You need a professional to evaluate your situation. They can give you a better understanding of what your situation is. You can't do it alone. You need someone that's honest and will give you an honest evaluation.
I've never seen you but I am almost certain that physical beauty is not the problem. It might be your behavior; maybe you're too shy. Or the type of people you are dating; maybe you have different goals. You can't see it so it's better to let someone else tell you. Someone that's not your friend.
Also, be careful of getting too wrapped-up on the idea of finding the perfect mate. There is no such person. Popular fiction has deceived many women and men into thinking that if you wait long enough your perfect mate will come. That's unlikely. We are all imperfect so don't think you are "settling" for someone when in reality that's how life is. Just know that you can share a very good and happy life with someone even if they are not perfect.
I appreciate you feedback but I think you missed the part of my post where I mentioned that I’ve done intensive therapy with two wonderful therapists for several years , been part of support groups, worked with a hypnotist and also met consistently with spiritual teachers (forgot to mention that)
I actually very frequently get asked out in second and third dates, but the men haven’t seemed to be good fits 90% of the time. It’s not because they’re not perfect. It’s mostly because they were extremely rude to a server, pressured me to be sexual before I was ready or , yes, not always , but in certain cases were extremely unappealing to me physically and looked nothing like their profile picture.
I love imperfection just as much as the next guy, in fact prefer it. We connect where we are vulnerable.
I think the problem is bigger than my personal hangups which I’ve deeply explored.
I've never seen you but I am almost certain that physical beauty is not the problem. It might be your behavior; maybe you're too shy. Or the type of people you are dating; maybe you have different goals. You can't see it so it's better to let someone else tell you. Someone that's not your friend.
Also, be careful of getting too wrapped-up on the idea of finding the perfect mate. There is no such person. Popular fiction has deceived many women and men into thinking that if you wait long enough your perfect mate will come. That's unlikely. We are all imperfect so don't think you are "settling" for someone when in reality that's how life is. Just know that you can share a very good and happy life with someone even if they are not perfect.
I wish you success.