On the contrary, I’d love to talk about a spicy topic. Only if the person isn’t too invested/serious about it though. E.g they can disagree gracefully and can entertain all angles

>Only if the person isn’t too invested/serious about it though

. Wow, I'm the opposite. I don't mind discussing a spicy topic, but only if the person actually gives a shit about it. I have no desire to be trolled IRL by someone wanting to be edgy. If someone is serious and polite about it, I'll discuss any topic.

I agree that talking to people who don’t give a shit at all aren’t fun talking to.

I wanted to say I don’t like discussing spicy topics with people who give too much shit and are inflexible because at that point discussion can turn personal or can feel like them venting.

Oh, yeah. We seem to agree.

Although I allow friends to vent inflexibly. But that's a different type of conversation done for their benefit.

It very much does. I have actually offensive party conversation starters that work even better. You don't have to enjoy talking with everyone.

edit: shouldn't party conversation be a little spicy? At least I'm not talking about party politics, sports events, or television shows. Or the weather, or how we all individually got to the party.

To each their own of course, but given the binary choice between a boring topic and a topic that will inevitably cause me to think about my own kids dying in an accident, bring on the boredom.

A chicken may relish breakfast jokes that a pig would find distasteful.

But anyone who knows the topic well will explain to you that bike helmets and seat belts are the only things that really move the needle. The rest are on the order of measurement error.

(And I assume you’re not advocating dropping either of those.)