I think you’re calling it “irrational” to give yourself an excuse to engage in bad faith — such as using demeaning language towards a large group of people.
That gives you an “out” from having to understand something that might conflict with a belief you hold or make you uncomfortable.
Or maybe it's just irrational. Not saying the feelings expressed here don't point to a very real issue, but there's no chance in any meaningful engagement with the vast majority of the comments in this thread. You have a bunch of scared men making emotional arguments that somehow their entire self worth and sense of direction relies on society demanding something of them. The something in most cases being rooted in nostalgia, either for times when men rode horses, or when it was more acceptable to slap a woman around - but don't worry, that didn't happen much, because it was also a time of tighter extended family and thus other men around to protect and avenge her. Boyish fantasies of cowboys, knights, and getting to beat up your brother-in-law if he hit your sister and left a mark. It doesn't get less insane as you continue reading.
By all means let's talk about what men are going through and feeling, let's treat it seriously, but let's not scramble in terror backwards.
> By all means let's talk about what men are going through and feeling, let's treat it seriously
Your post comes across as you strawmanning and demeaning men doing just that — to justify your own irrational dismissal of what they’re actually saying.
That gives you an “out” from having to understand something that might conflict with a belief you hold or make you uncomfortable.