As someone who also lives in Hoboken, I second the suggestion of living here. It's beautiful, safe, and fun. A good amount of the population is young and everything is within walking distance. And you're just a 10 minute PATH ride to the city. Its definitely something to look into.
Second the suggestion. Hoboken's got fantastic access into the city, they have their own tech meetup too (NJ Tech) and there's a new shared workspace that's opened up there too: http://www.missionfifty.com/
