So do you see all of these examples, yours (the Walmat worker, chicken factory worker, etc) and mine (the woman doing sex work out of desperation) as just a fact of life, the nature of things, everyone's gotta do what they gotta do?
Or do you see them all as exploitation?
As manifestations of the inherent injustices of our socioeconomic system?
Or something else?
How do you feel about the description "consenting adults"?
What about a female employee who doesn't stop her boss's sexual advances because he controls her income and career? Is that a transaction between consenting adults?
(I never commented on legality of sex work. I was commenting only on "consenting adults" and... see my other replies.)
>What about a female employee who doesn't stop her boss's sexual advances because he controls her income and career? Is that a transaction between consenting adults?
You're trying to flip the script here. A boss (i.e. a concrete person yielding some form of power over another person) trying to coerce the employee is on the same line as a pimp or human traffickers using coercion (or worse).
I was never talking about that, I was talking about a person who looks at the options in the job market, and figures all on own their that prostitution is the least shitty option available to them. And some prostitutes reportedly even like their job well enough. But even if they don't, they can join the large group of other people who do not like their jobs either, but do it anyway to provide for themselves and loved ones.
> A boss (i.e. a concrete person yielding some form of power over another person) trying to coerce the employee is on the same line as a pimp or human traffickers using coercion (or worse).
By your logic, she can say no. She can "look at options in the job market". She can go get a job at McDonald's. By your logic, its consensual and not coercion. By your logic, the boss is morally free and clear as long a an employee can go find a job somewhere else. At will employment, right?
> I was talking about a person who looks at the options in the job market, and figures all on own their that prostitution is the least shitty option available to them.
If prostitution, which is heavily stigmatized by the society a person lives in and is illegal, starts looking attractive, then there is something wrong, don't you think? The problem is not decriminalization, the problem is that people don't have anywhere to look at if they want a decent life.
> And some prostitutes reportedly even like their job well enough.
Which part of it, stigma, having no rights or a fair chance to get degraded/killed/catch STD/highly reducing their chances of having a romantic relationship?
>they can join the large group of other people who do not like their jobs either, but do it anyway to provide for themselves and loved ones.
You can't provide for yourself and, even more so for you loved ones, by working at McDonalds. You can barely survive.
> There is no coerced consent.
Sure, if you have 2 choices - prostitution or dying from starvation, then it's not coerced consent. You always had a choice to die.
>If prostitution, which is heavily stigmatized by the society a person lives in and is illegal, starts looking attractive, then there is something wrong, don't you think?
I live in a country that doesn't criminalize prostitution. But even in countries where it is criminalized (most of them), it still can be an attractive enough proposition for sure, depending on the circumstances.
Not all prostitutes are those "street workers". A lot of prostitutes are living rather normal lives on the outset, at least in my country. There is plenty of part time prostitutes, too, apparently. Your next door neighbor could be a prostitute, and you won't know it.
Stigmatization surely is a problem, but that is directly correlated with criminalization too (but of course not entirely caused by it). Media plays a big role for sure too, usually portraying every prostitute as either a drug addict, abused, or both.
There is no easy solution, but one can start by stopping to stigmatize prostitutes, starting with ourselves and then with the people we know. Just threat them as well human beings.
>Which part of it, stigma, having no rights or a fair chance to get degraded/killed/catch STD/highly reducing their chances of having a romantic relationship?
Not every prostitute gets regularly degraded and/or abused, or killed. Most of the prostitutes around here probably do not have a much higher chance of being killed than other groups. STDs are another matter. But sure, some jobs are riskier than others. We as a society should make it less risky. The chances of bad things happening to prostitutes skyrockets when you criminalize prostitution and thus take away their chances of reporting crimes without being harassed or arrested by law enforcement themselves. Or when the police dismiss a prostitute reporting a rape because "how can a prostitute be raped?!". Or some child protective services agency shows up to take away your kid, because you dared report you were beaten and robbed by a John.
Then again, I can hardly find any justification for the laws to criminalize prostitution, other than "it leads to more crime". No shit sherlock, it's criminalized, and that brings more crime with it, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy at this point. We have plenty of examples of this happening, like when the US banned alcoholic beverages for a while, and this caused not only speak easys to spring up everywhere, it brought along murder and mayhem, lives destroyed and a vast spike in corruption.
>You can't provide for yourself and, even more so for you loved ones, by working at McDonalds. You can barely survive.
True, and that needs to change.
>Sure, if you have 2 choices - prostitution or dying from starvation, then it's not coerced consent.
Correct, that's life being shitty to you. It's not coercion because coercion requires somebody to make threats. Regardless, they are usually either more than two options, and sadly quite often only the one option of starvation. It seems to me you're advocating taking away the prostitution option, which then leaves only starvation? How is this better?
In a better world, we would only have people going into prostitution who really want it for some reason, instead of outright, desperate economic need. A world were people do not have to work 14h in some shitty factory and still cannot pay their rent, and cannot even dream of owning a house. A world were nobody starves, and everybody has access to fresh, clean drinking water. We don't have such a world. Making this world we actually got worse for these desperate people by criminalizing them does not help anybody, does it?
I don't think that prostitution will ever get destigmatized. This hasn't much to do with the media, and more to do with human nature. Men are usually wary of sexually promiscuous women, and women know that as well (which is why women "slut shame" other women to take them out of the competition). IIRC most prostitutes in Germany are foreign anyway, so even though the pay is high, most German women would prefer to do some other work :).
>I don't think that prostitution will ever get destigmatized.
Fully de-stigmatized? Probably not in our life times, or ever. But the stigma has been on a sharp decline, at least in my parents generation and my generation, as far as I can tell.
>Men are usually wary of sexually promiscuous women, and women know that as well
While this is not entirely wrong, what is considered "sexually promiscuous" has shifted a lot in general. In the "somewhat woker"[0] parts of society you will get shamed for "slut shaming". Moreover, I find with a lot of people the idea that prostitutes are "sexually promiscuous" instead of just doing a job has greatly shifted towards recognizing it's a job and not "sluttiness". Even my late grandma, after watching a few documentaries about prostitution in German, changed her mind[1].
I think visiting a prostitute has a large stigma ("creep"/"perv", "cannot get laid if he does not pay money for it") but the actual prostitution a lot less so now.
>IIRC most prostitutes in Germany are foreign anyway, so even though the pay is high, most German women would prefer to do some other work :).
There is reportedly a sizable chunk of foreign prostitutes, but not a majority, as far as I am aware. With legalization and the internet, it is rather easy to set up your own one-person operation, and that happened/happens a lot, even for foreigners. No need to walk the streets or work in known brothels or red light districts. You can operate in relative anonymity as a one-person operation from some flat or go to customers, after advertising your services online[2]. This affords both the prostitute and their client some privacy.
Or you can work in the larger legal brothels, which then provide security (actual bouncers, not some pimps pretending to provide protection) and other amenities such as that they will advertise their establishment so you don't have to spend time doing that yourself. These legal brothels then charge a flat entrance fee to prostitutes (but do not take a cut of the pay; that would be illegal pimping).
The one prostitute I know socially[3], for example, is German and has rented a flat together with another prostitute (also German) one town over from where she lives (to avoid awkwardly running into clients on the street), where they would provide services to clients, usually alternating who gets to use the flat each day. This works out well for them, time-wise, she says. She also goes to regular clients (to their homes or hotels) after there was a certain level of reputation and trust was established. She says in this system they set up, there is no need for hired security (or a "pimp", not that pimps ever actually provided protection), seeing new clients only after vetting them (also vetting them with other prostitutes, who use online forums to do so; not so much the case in the US after SESTA/FOSTA), and only accepting electronic payments for new clients to leave a money trace the police could investigate if something goes bad and telling the clients as much (US sex workers cannot even get banking once it becomes known to the bank they are sex workers, or reasonably go to the police).
She isn't a high end escort either, by the way. She mentioned charging something like 100 bucks for half an hour as the base rate. I don't really have a frame of reference, but I believe this is neither particularly cheap nor particularly expensive.
[0] And by somewhat "woker" I do not mean the crowd who think antifa is great and tattoo their pronouns on their foreheads, but the section of society which believes e.g. in equal treatment of the genders, that allowing same sex marriage and adoption is not up for debate, or that we have to do something about climate change. I generally would call these people the "sane group", but that's just me.
[1] I remember the time at some family function, when the topic somehow got on legalization of prostitution (it had been already legal for years), my 80-something-at-the-time year old grandpa remarked that they are "sluts", and my grandma of roughly the same age, to everybody's amazement, remarked "Leave them alone! They are just doing a hard job to get by. I saw a lot about that on TV".
[3] On the flip side, this makes it easier to hide human trafficking, too, as trafficker rings can online advertise and rent normal apartments, too, of course.
And yeah, I was curious and/or nosy enough to ask her questions after she revealed what she does for a living, specially about the risks involved and how she mitigates them.
> but one can start by stopping to stigmatize prostitutes, starting with ourselves and then with the people we know. Just threat them as well human beings.
Agree.
>> Sure, if you have 2 choices - prostitution or dying from starvation, then it's not coerced consent.
> Correct, that's life being shitty to you. It's not coercion because coercion requires somebody to make threats.
To pressure, intimidate, or force (someone) into doing something.
I don't see a difference here, drug dealer or shitty life, it's the same life threat with the same outcome. What consent can we talk about here? How prostitution can be not destructive for the psychic health? We can't look at our body as some crutch which you can sell for a couple of hours. Prostitution is destructive for the person and as such, for the whole society. And no, physical labor and repetitive work are not the same as prostitution.
> It seems to me you're advocating taking away the prostitution option,
I wanted to say:
~Not at all. I think it should be decriminalized everywhere, not because there is "no easy solution", but because no one is interested in actually doing smth - same labor as everything else, nothing to see here. Brothels should be forbidden though if they are "for profit".~
but what's next? Let's decriminalize child prostitution? They have nowhere else to go and have to get some money for living, you know? Ah, the age of consent is too high? Let's lower it, kids need to work and there are so many wealthy guys who would like to get some. And, since there is no coercion, it's all fine. In selling organs too - those are you own organs and no one "coerced" you, your choice.
Maybe decriminalization of __adult__ prostitution will make sense only in case smth being done for it's elimination? Like raising minimal wages, better protection of the workers, social security, stuff like that?
But for now, i say, it should be decriminalized the other way - the one who will be prosecuted should be the buyer, for exploiting people in need. And the stigma should go to them instead.
Same could be done about people addicted to heavy drugs and being prosecuted when they are caught with one dosage. Selling heavy drugs should be forbidden, carrying a dosage for yourself - no. And there is at least one country where it worked.
> which then leaves only starvation? How is this better?
It doesn't leave only starvation. It leaves people realizing that they have nothing to lose but their chains. It's not the decriminalization of prostitution we should talk about, but solving the real problems which caused it. DoP will not solve them and after that we will absolutely need to decriminalize something else. Gladiator fights, maybe?
> We can't look at our body as some crutch which you can sell for a couple of hours.
That's a good argument against wage labor in capitalism, but not a specific argument against prostitution as opposed to other, particularly physical, wage labor.
Comparing prostitution to physical labor is no different from comparing selling your organs to prostitution. Indeed, giving away for free a part of what you earned is bad, but giving a part of yourself, be it psychological or physical health(which should not be separated, actually, but lets not complicate things. Lots of things we can lose and still continue to live), is worse.
Its not a comparison, prostitution literally is physical labor...
> is no different from comparing selling your organs to prostitution
...whereas selling organs is not prostitution and vice versa.
> Indeed, giving away for free a part of what you earned is bad, but giving a part of yourself, be it psychological or physical health(which should not be separated, actually, but lets not complicate things. Lots of things we can lose and still continue to live), is worse.
Much wage labor, both physical and otherwise, involves sacrifice of psychological and/or physical health. We have, in fact, a massive labor regulatory and enforcement bureaucracy that exists not to prevent that, but to try to limit it to what is deemed reasonable for each specific job. (Including, where it is legal, for prostitution.)
>Its not a comparison, prostitution literally is physical labor...
>...whereas selling organs is not prostitution and vice versa.
Alright.
> Much wage labor, both physical and otherwise, involves sacrifice of psychological and/or physical health.
And the goal was to reduce those sacrifices overtime. Or so I thought.
> We have, in fact, a massive labor regulatory and enforcement bureaucracy that exists not to prevent that, but to try to limit it to what is deemed reasonable for each specific job. (Including, where it is legal, for prostitution.)
Help me out then. Where is the limit? I mean, at what point we can say:"no, this is unacceptable to decriminalize doing that, even though it can perfectly be classified as labor definition on wikipedia". Why governments prevent trading some stuff, if trading, whatever you trade, is the same labor like everything else and shouldn't be prevented?
Are you a libertarian? I'm asking because discussing all that with people who believe in stuff has no purpose
You are not paid only for physical labor in a company. You are expected to be part of the company culture, which, most of the times, is mental prostitution.
Some Johns will surely try to degrade and abuse prostitutes (outside of a safe, agree-upon role play setting). We call these people "bullies" or even "criminals" (depending on that they do). Cutting off a prostitutes ability to file charges against such people by making her or him fear they will get arrested... well I reiterated that point enough by now, I feel.
Recycled slippery slope FUD "somebody think of the children" argument, used a lots of times, e.g. when "they" claimed that same sex marriages would lead to people marrying their dogs, daughters and children.
I was planning to give you a more detailed response, but after reading this, and the "male capitalist bias" bull post you linked, I am honestly not so keen on spending brain cycles on arguing with you.
From one of your other comments (I just got curious now, after you linked the other poster):
>In capitalistic society everything can be called labour, including selling people, their organs and their genitals for sex.
What the actual fuck is this false equivalency?
Selling people and selling organs is hardly the same as doing some consensual work for paying customers.
I am pretty sure nobody here even made that argument, but I guess it's easier to attack that strawman.
>It leaves something that will make people realize that they have nothing to lose but their chains.
Oh hurray, Marx is alive!
Sorry, but you cannot eat "empowerment" and you cannot break the chains of "famine" or "overpopulation". What's the goal here? Bloody revolution against capitalism towards a collective utopia? This would only work if everybody was pure and virtuous, and that's just not the reality. Even Rousseau acknowledged that.
You can make things fairer, and we should strive to do that. But "breaking chains" rhetoric in this context is counter-productive at best, and destructive at worst, as well as divorced from reality.
> If I was in a situation where I could either prostitute myself (legally, in a safe-enough environment like a legal club with a bouncer) or clean toilets (legally, in a safe-enough enviroment)
Maybe that's because you expect yourself to benefit from it as much as your friend or the girl who wrote the article. Will you disagree that decriminalizing it, just like that, will lead to an increase in competition in that sphere which, in turn, will lead to more and more people agreeing to all kinds of stuff which they wouldn't agree to before? The money will still be there, you will just have to "work harder" to get them, consensually, so some other Aella wouldn't be so picky anymore and will be greatful to have a client who will choke her and call a whore.
I didn't watch interviews with prostitutes, but i watched interviews with pornstars. Whether they want it or not, most of them eventually have to bend as they are getting older and most of them are not educated and/or intelligent enough to save money or invest it into something which can help them get out of this. I couldn't find age statistics in porn but the average, 22, median is more interesting though.
> She'd like to get a better accepted job with better job security that she can still work when she gets older
So maybe that's what we need to talk about?
If you had a choice between toilets and prostitution, it would've meant one thing - you wouldn't be as smart(educated+intelligent) as you are now so your chances to benefit from it would've been low and you would've likely ended with cleaning someone's dirty dick with your mouth instead of cleaning toilets with your hands. Considering that this prostitute was/is your friend, she must be educated and intelligent enough to keep your interest. Why was that the only choice for her, btw? Family violence or smth?
> Recycled slippery slope FUD "somebody think of the children" argument, used a lots of times, e.g. when "they" claimed that same sex marriages would lead to people marrying their dogs, daughters and children.
Oh come on, i didn't expect that you will compare child prostitution to "think about children" and then compare it to gay marriage. The fact that you can compare anything to some stupid religious shit doesn't instantly make those things false, it just makes people afraid to use those comparisons and carefully avoid them in the conversations, as otherwise it will instantly turn into "ah, you are one of those idiots! Not talking to you!" I am yet to develop this brain reflex of "no-no-no, can't say the kid word, bad, bad!" as I don't expect people to get the "gay marriage" reflex.
Kids are just another age group, who(for some unknown reason) are protected from this shit by law. Change it to decriminalizing gladiator fights to the death or work for 112 hours per week - it's all the same in the sense of making it all worse, not better. But you say that until someone is standing behind you with a gun to your head it's all consensual.
> I was planning to give you a more detailed response, but after reading this, and the "male capitalist bias" bull post you linked, I am honestly not so keen on spending brain cycles on arguing with you.
I said "smth like", it was night already and I have problems with concentration: seen a canvas of the message which seemed close to what was on my mind but which i couldn't put into words, but didn't see the other part. I don't know what "male capitalist bias" is and i shouldn't have related to the messages i dont understand. Can remove that part from my message completely - it won't lose anything. Point taken, no hard feelings, my fault
>> _In capitalistic society everything can be called labour, including selling people, their organs and their genitals for sex._
>Selling people and selling organs is hardly the same as doing some consensual work for paying customers.
Ah, right, the slippery slope of consensual work.
People who gave me themselves, part or whole, did that consensually. I'm just a retailer who wants to work honestly and without fear. I sell, you buy. I say, if a person wants to sell their organs or themselves completely, then it should be their lawful right, if there was no coercion. After all, what else do we actually own but the meat on our bones?
> I am pretty sure nobody here even made that argument, but I guess it's easier to attack that strawman.
Why is it a strawman? There is literally no barrier from going down or up on social security ladder but the barrier of public opinion and actions. Decriminalizing stuff, the way it is argued here by the majority, is a try to patch the consequence of the problem and avoidance of the problem itself.
And I already said that i agree with decriminalization of the prostitution, as well as one for using heavy drugs, dont know why you ignored that. Considered it irrelevant?
> Oh hurray, Marx is alive!
Ah, sarcasm which is supposed to mean something but the sarcasm itself. I'm not a marxist, but it's pretty obvious, to me, that most people won't do anything until they really-really-really have nothing to lose, whether Marx is alive of dead.
> Sorry, but you cannot eat "empowerment" and you cannot break the chains of "famine" or "overpopulation".
No shit sherlock, maybe the reasons for overpopulation need a solution too? And not by throwing people into bioreactor, using them to fertilize the soil or making soap, but, you know, education and stuff.
If 42 millions of prostitutes(in 2012, right now it should be much more than that) are being paid, then those money have to come from somewhere. How about using them for raising the quality of life of the people instead of making them have sex for that security(consensually ofc)?
> What's the goal here? Bloody revolution against capitalism towards a collective utopia?
> This would only work if everybody was pure and virtuous, and that's just not the reality.
Wasn't my intention to get into this conversation but ok. The goal is raising the quality of life
You don't get pure and virtuous people by some kind of a switch. It's a longterm goal which should be achieved by increasing the level of education and gradual raise of the quality of life, and, therefore, raising the awareness of society. Right now we have much more people thinking about racism, overpopulation, inequality, global warming and stuff than 50 years ago. Changes are not made by some kind of a global vote, you just need to have a critical mass with enough influence - tetraethyllead gasoline can confirm that.
And, btw, right now we have a choice a choice between bloody revolution for your rights and bloody war for the rights of 1%, haven't you seen the news? And revolutions are much less bloody
> You can make things fairer, and we should strive to do that.
true
> But "breaking chains" rhetoric in this context ...
It really was rhetoric, i had a chance to use it so i did, no harm done. I meant what i wrote above.
> ...is counter-productive at best, and destructive at worst, as well as divorced from reality.
Since when striving for the improvement of the quality of life is counter-productive?
I will not respond to most of what you said, as it's getting rather repetitive, you seem to have made up your mind about how prostitution is exclusively all of the following and worse: necessarily extremely "degrading", "like selling organs and slavery", "leads to pedophilia", is about "sucking dirty dicks". Divorced from reality in other words. I feel like I am talking to a creationist who argues that evolution is just an unproven theory.
But this shit had my blood boiling:
>Considering that this prostitute was/is your friend, she must be educated and intelligent enough to keep your interest. Why was that the only choice for her, btw? Family violence or smth?
She had to be abused in order to become a prostitute? For the sake of the holy fuck...
First of all, aren't we a little bit elitist and superficial? I am friends with her because I like her as a human and she is a nice person and fun to hang out with, not because she is "able to keep my interest" with smarts and education...
She is average smart I would think, and in fact not well educated, tho has a certain natural curiosity to her. She fucked up her education, mostly by cutting classes a lot and partying, leading to bad grades. A rebellious teen at most, no abuse involved (something I kinda have in common with her, that rebellious/carpe diem phase, but I somehow managed to outgrow that phase soon enough to not completely tank my final grades, and still qualified to go to uni).
And prostitution wasn't the only choice for her, even tho thanks to her rebellious years and bad academic record, her choices were limited. That's why she started working as a cleaner in that hospital (another option) where I met her. She could have gone back to school, or gone to vocational school instead (she had/has supportive parents and a good relationship with them). No idea why she did not, or rather only in recent years started looking into that possibility.
I myself was working in that hospital only because German males at the time still had to either do mandatory army service or mandatory civil service, and I opted for the latter. We got talking at the "smokers bus stop" (basically a little space with a roof looking like a bus stop right outside of the hospital and the only place where anybody was allowed to smoke), then started hanging out after shifts. We lost touch after my service was over and left, and left home for uni to another town. But a couple of years later we ran into each other again, and that's when I learned she changed professions (well, after a while she told me, while initially being secretive about it).
She wasn't abused/hadn't been abused, she wasn't driven into prostitution by outright desperation (she wanted a less shitty job, but that's not the same), she wasn't pimped out by a "boyfriend", she wasn't forced into it by anybody or anything. She wasn't in debt either, as far as I know, just shittily paid for long hours, which only allowed her to rent a somewhat small and shitty apartment, drive a shitty used car, go on a low-end vacation every couple of years, and so on, and desired a life less shitty.
In fact, she told me she was rather skeptical at first and took a long time deliberating if she should do it, did a lot of online research first, and then took cautious steps into that business, doing it very part time for a time while still working her cleaner job, and then decided it was working well enough for her and a lot better than that cleaner job, and made the jump to full time. What initially gave her the idea of becoming a prostitute I don't know.
> how prostitution is exclusively all of the following and worse...
You never explained why we should exclusively decriminalize prostitution but not everything else which perfectly fits into wiki's labor definition
> necessarily extremely "degrading"
not necessarily. There is a tip of the iceberg - girls who write "fantastic articles", "informative, well-written, thoughtful, human, and funny",- whose rights you are trying to defend here.
> "leads to pedophilia"
I think, you should've said "leads to gay marriages", for consistency
> "like selling organs and slavery"
you never explained where should we stop and why prostitution is different
> Divorced from reality in other words.
Alright
> I feel like I am talking to a creationist who argues that evolution is just an unproven theory.
I know that there are more than 2 opportunities and I figured out that you are from a developed country, so I chose a more likely reason to go into prostitution, according to my divorced from reality views.
> First of all, aren't we a little bit elitist and superficial? I am friends with her because I like her as a human and she is a nice person and fun to hang out with, not because she is "able to keep my interest" with smarts and education...
I don't think so. Humans have a huge variation in intelligence so understanding each other may be a big problem. I have acquaintances who are nice people but I feel very uncomfortable talking to them - it's like talking to big, adult-size kids. I also have nice acquaintances, who are like on the edge of understanding, from the left side of the scale - sometimes annoying but hanging out is fun. And I have those with whom I feel like we have a complete understanding(not agreement), and those with whom I myself feel like an idiot and need to put lots of effort to just keep up.
> And prostitution wasn't the only choice for her, even tho thanks to her rebellious years and bad academic record, her choices were limited.
Is technical college in Germany somehow a bad choice, compared to cleaning? Good grades are not needed and you get payed while studying, or it's not as cool as internet describes it?
That was interesting, thank you for writing.
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Let's cut everything I said before as irrelevant so you won't feel bad talking about it. Let's talk about what you wrote as I need your help to understand it, no sarcasm intended.
Prostitution is no different from work in McDonalds or even cleaning toilets, they are all labor. Alright. But then we get into a situation where .
So, if prostitution is just the same, we get serious inequality: women, by birth, have better opportunities than men. Men are stronger but it doesn't bring much to their table: blunt force is not smth of a high value nowadays.
Therefore, when women tell me about their serious or not so serious financial troubles, I should suggest them to go into prostitution and give them a link to this topic which explains how to do it right. Yeah, people don't like advises they didn't ask for, but I just want to help - helped a couple of girls to get junior positions in IT when they didn't even consider it as an option, thinking that it immensely hard, but IT not even remotely close to the benefits of the prostitution. Most(I'd say absolute majority, but I'm not inclined enough to google statistics) IT positions, for which someone is willing to pay you, are extremely repetitive and boring, whether it's junior, middle or senior, and, if you come there for the money only, it will be a trouble getting higher on the salary ladder. In a country I am from, a highly qualified senior I know gets around 2600$ and he is not very thrilled about this job as he been doing it for 10 years but he likes the salary and that's enough for him. If we legalize prostitution so prostitutes could get pensions and other security benefits, it wins, hands down. And I'm comparing it to mental labor because it's hard for me to imagine physical labor to compare.
Alright, prostitution is the same and it wins.
But there's a problem here - if I advice that to the women/girls I know, I can 100% tell you that the response I will get is a slap or, more likely, a punch in the face, a kick in the balls or a combination from those. What am I missing here? Do you think it's because they are just not as open-minded as you are?
>You never explained why we should exclusively decriminalize prostitution
I - and others too - have repeatedly pointed out how prostitution is not different from other already legal physical labor, but here goes the summary: it's consensual, something adults do, it can be relatively safe[0], it isn't necessarily more of a health risk than a lot of other jobs both for physical and mental health[0].
Selling organs clearly does not fit that. Slavery does not either. Child prostitution does not either. Your argument seems to be "if we allow any paid work, this will lead to child exploitation". "If we allow factory work, then it's a slippery slope to legalizing child factory work", "If we allow prostitution, then it's a slippery slope to legalizing child sex work". No, it fucking isn't, no matter how often you repeat that argument, slightly rephrased.
Your only other objection I keep hearing is that that genitals are somehow magical and very different from other organs so that when you use them for work instead of pleasure they will immediately fuck with your head, unlike say your brain or hands which are fine to use for work. And that prostitution is somehow degrading in itself [citation needed] most of the time. All those claims are not just outright wrong, they are on a level of "the earth is flat" to me.
> chose a more likely reason to go into prostitution,
How exactly do you figure it's "the more likely reason"? What informed that? Do you have any foundation to make this claim?
>Is technical college in Germany somehow a bad choice, compared to cleaning? Good grades are not needed and you get payed while studying, or it's not as cool as internet describes it?
That's a misunderstanding of how the system works. First of all, you don't get paid for visiting any school. You usually do not have to pay (much) either if it's a state run school (private schools are different and can be quite expensive).
We have state-run vocational schools, as well as private vocational schools. If you want to learn a trade, such as plumber, hairdresser or welder or sales or whatever, you have to find a company hiring you as an apprentice and then that company will educate you on the practical hands-on side while the vocational school will give you a good chunk of theory specific to your job and/or more generally applicable knowledge (e.g. they might teach you how to write a proper, legal invoice) as well as additional general education (math in particular). But here is the thing: finding a company to hire you as an apprentice is hard, and it can be quite impossible depending where you live if your final school grades are shit. Too many applicants for open spots, and there will be applicants with better grades. If you get an apprenticeship, you get paid a small salary by the company, but it's usually not enough to live on your own, often not even enough to live with room mates. So you can either "freeload" from your parents or take out a special state student loan[1] (or somehow have money saved). An apprenticeship lasts between 2 years and 4 years, depending on the specific trade. Expect 700 bucks a month if you're a plumber apprentice, before taxes. The pay is worse now than ever in most apprenticeships, by the way. My mom in todays equivalent money would have been paid more than double what she would get now as an apprentice in the same vocation.
Then there is what one could call "technical colleges", which are a little like community colleges I suppose. You get a "uni-degree-light" (Fachhochschulabsluss). E.g. you can become a "programmer" but you cannot become a "computer scientist" or "computer engineer" (for those degrees you have to go to a university). Applicants must however have a certain school or equivalent degree ("Fachhochschulreife"), and a lot of people don't (my friend did not). You can get this required degree by either staying a little longer in school, go back to a (night) school or you automatically get it if you get an accredited vocational degree[2].
Then there is full universities. In order to get in, you have to have the highest school degree (Abitur) or a completed masters degree or diploma from a technical college. So if you do not have either, you can go back to (night) school to get your Abitur. Certain fields of study, like medicine, have additional grade requirements ("numerus clausus") because there are far too many applicants (with certain exceptions, e.g. if you can demonstrate you had a "problematic" upbringing for example).
There are basically six ways you can leave regular school as a kid: no degree (congrats, nobody will ever hire you for anything except the worst menial jobs), Hauptschule ("main school" or "basic school", very hard to get an apprenticeship with just that, but not impossible) after grade 9, Realschule (mid school, you usually go the vocational school/apprenticeship route after that) after grade 10, Erweiterter Sekundarstufenabschluss I (basically Realschule+, the difference being your grades were good enough to allow you to stay in school and pursue the Abitur) after grade 10, and Abitur after grade 12 or 13 (qualifies you to go to university, technical colleges or you can of course go to a vocational school, but a lot of companies will not offer you an apprenticeship because they consider you "overqualified"). The "Fachhochschulreife" you can get by going the Abitur route, but leaving with good enough grades after grade 11, or visiting a "Fachoberschule" after you already earned a Realschule degree (Fachoberschulen often offer night school for people getting their Fachhochschule while working an unskilled job during the day).
Everything is rather complicated, I know. But it also gives you a lot of options and different way to get there.
The point is: you don't get paid going to school, and you don't get paid enough being an apprentice. I am sure that some people earn money from prostitution and other sex work to finance their time in school as opposed to taking out loans or work dead end side jobs with a lot worse pay-by-hour rate. Tho the common trope is that your waiter is probably a student (which is true enough that it became a political issue when gastronomy was shut down during corona and a lot of students got into financial dire straits thanks to it).
>If we legalize prostitution so prostitutes could get pensions and other security benefits, it wins, hands down.
That's what happen in Germany, by the way. Prostitution counts as regular work and thus you get access to all kinds of benefits and access to the national retirement insurance, workplace injury insurance, etc.
>So, if prostitution is just the same, we get serious inequality: women, by birth, have better opportunities than men.
Uh... what?
>But there's a problem here - if I advice that to the women/girls I know, I can 100% tell you that the response I will get is a slap or, more likely, a punch in the face, a kick in the balls or a combination from those. What am I missing here? Do you think it's because they are just not as open-minded as you are?
The thing is, you'd get that slap under the current situation, where prostitution is not legal were you are and highly stigmatized.
Then again, such advice would be misleading regardless. Prostitution is not necessarily better than other jobs. Other jobs often offer a guaranteed salary, while prostitution does not as you're usually self-employed. Self-employment usually has other legal and practical ramifications as well, in general. Prostitution usually has a limited time you can keep doing it, because demand for your services will get lower and lower as you get older (usually), so you have to earn enough and save enough to finance your early-compared-to-other-jobs retirement, or be prepared to change professions later.
I personally would not advice anybody to take up prostitution as their only profession, because of the uncertain financial future, even in a world were it's legal and does not carry an excessive stigma. I won't tell anybody not to take up that profession either, if I get the feeling they carefully considered the pros and cons. Then again, I wouldn't advice anybody to pick up any kind of other self-employment either, for the same reason, unless they well researched it first and are confident it's going to work out for them.
[0] If you do it legally and aren't cut off from the police and welfare systems, and take the right precautions. As with many other jobs, if you do not take the right precautions, you can be harmed. As with other jobs even with the right precautions you can only minimize the risk of harm, not eliminate it entirely. Some jobs are explicitly about you putting yourself into harms way, like soldiers, security and bouncers, bodyguards, police, fire fighters. Other jobs have an inherent risk like cab drivers, construction workers, etc. There are jobs that can be very bad for your mental health, like again soldiers and police, EMTs and nurses and doctors, child protective service and social workers, and a plethora of others. And dull, repetitive work does not have a reputation of being particularly good for your psyche either.
[1] Called BaFöG. Basically a no interest loan, and you only have to pay back if you can, but how much of a loan you depends on your means and the means of your parents.
[2] Vocational degrees are usually not given by the vocational school, or the company which had you as an apprentice, but by a trade organization. It normally requires passing a final round of exams administered by those organizations.
> I - and others too - have repeatedly pointed out how prostitution is not different from other already legal physical labor, but here goes the summary: it's consensual, something adults do, it can be relatively safe[0], it isn't necessarily more of a health risk than a lot of other jobs both for physical and mental health[0].
Oh, those are tight boundaries. What does "something adults do" mean, though?
> Some jobs are explicitly about you putting yourself into harms way
> Other jobs have an inherent risk like
> There are jobs that can be very bad for your mental health
> And dull, repetitive work does not have a reputation of being particularly good for your psyche either.
So the goal is to reduce that harm and risk, not in using their existence as justification.
> Selling organs clearly does not fit that.
Kidney donation and liver donation are considered safe and dont even seem to affect life expectancy much(kidney does but its like a year or smth). And you can also sell one of your eyeballs, if you have 2. All those are not harmful and you can perfectly function afterwards. What's wrong with selling organs, i don't get it.
> Slavery does not either
The difference between slavery and work at Mcdonalds is just the level of exploitation, it perfectly fits. Prostitution is just sexual slavery, no big deal
> Child prostitution does not either.
[x] consensual
[x] something adults do
[x] relatively safe
[x] according to you, it isn't necessarily more of a health risk than a lot of other jobs both for physical and mental health(ofc, talking about kids who reached puberty)
You seem to be afraid of kids. Kids are allowed to work part time almost everywhere, because they are supposed to study, not because they are magical. What's the difference?
> Your argument seems to be "if we allow any paid work, this will lead to child exploitation". "If we allow factory work, then it's a slippery slope to legalizing child factory work", "If we allow prostitution, then it's a slippery slope to legalizing child sex work".
It's about the direction. If we start gradually increasing the length of the working day on a factory, we will get back to child factory work, eventually, because that's where we started. That's how lifting of restrictions works, one be one. And no, there is no physical law from which you want a citation and if there is no physical law, then it doesn't exist, i already understood your position. What you are trying to protect here, as many others, is "yes, i did take all his means for survival but I didn't kill him, shitty life did. And he would've died anyway, so who cares."
> Your only other objection I keep hearing is that that genitals are somehow magical and very different from other organs so that when you use them for work instead of pleasure they will immediately fuck with your head, unlike say your brain or hands which are fine to use for work. And that prostitution is somehow degrading in itself [citation needed] most of the time.
Sex and intimacy, and intimacy of sex are one of those things that turn a good friendship into a relationship. The word intimacy is kinda self-explanotory. I don't know, read a psychology book about human sexual relationships or smth.
> And that prostitution is somehow degrading in itself [citation needed] most of the time.
I don't know what percentage of people made a "thoughtful analyses" prior to using it as a source of income, but i presume it's less than 10. So yes, most of the time it is.
> All those claims are not just outright wrong
You just don't like it because you decided that liberalizing your mind in one way but not the other is the right thing to do without much facts to support it. The positive effect you know about, on a tip of the iceberg in Germany, is not much evidence, would've been if we knew for sure where forced ends and voluntary starts. They say that decriminalization in New Zealand led to some improvements, but that's a unique case - 5 million people on an island, - and we have no idea about it's scalability.
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But alright, nothing is important, everything is the same, prostitution is just a physical labor. Then it shouldn't be decriminalized, like Aella and others want it to be, it should be legalized. All that noncoerced stuff should be registered as individual entrepreneurs, and be prosecuted for tax avoidance. Even more so, unemployed on welfare should be sent to brothels the moment a vacancy opens
What will we get here? Nothing. The real problem which was supposed to be solved there for the majority, problem of human trafficking, will not be solved. Even Aella with friends will lose as they won't be able to compete with brothels/callgirls and will get the same payment as McDonalds, eventually. And, suddenly, the only reason you wanted to do that for - more money for the same thing, - doesn't work anymore. So maybe it's not the problem, eh?
Legalization of prostitution is not the problem, that's a consequence of the problem. I read several stories about women getting education while sex working, getting a job and then still going back to prostitution because it's "easier". The easier the legalized work, the cheaper it is and even cleaning toilets requires smth more than consent and genitals.
> How exactly do you figure it's "the more likely reason"? What informed that? Do you have any foundation to make this claim?
> That's what happen in Germany, by the way. Prostitution counts as regular work and thus you get access to all kinds of benefits and access to the national retirement insurance, workplace injury insurance, etc.
Do they send unemployed to brothels yet?
>> So, if prostitution is just the same, we get serious inequality: women, by birth, have better opportunities than men.
>Uh... what?
You heard about the term "privilege", right? Last i checked, female prostitution was in a much higher demand and has always been.
The other side of a coin is that with current gender inequality, prostitution become an "equalizer" - women in difficult financial situation have no choice but prostitution or finding a wealthy husband if they want to raise their quality of life. So what's the point of legalizing this inequality? Women should be prostitutes because they can?
> Everything is rather complicated, I know. But it also gives you a lot of options and different way to get there.
I think, much more options would've been given if companies HAD to hire at least one apprentice if there happen to be one. Ofc, for a partial compensation from the government.
> The point is: you don't get paid going to school, and you don't get paid enough being an apprentice.
So this is the actual problem, not legalization of prostitution.
> I am sure that some people earn money from prostitution and other sex work to finance their time in school as opposed to taking out loans or work dead end side jobs with a lot worse pay-by-hour rate.
Be honest, it's not "some people", it's women. Women earn money from prostitution and other sex work to finance their time in school.
> The thing is, you'd get that slap under the current situation, where prostitution is not legal were you are and highly stigmatized.
Or do you see them all as exploitation?
As manifestations of the inherent injustices of our socioeconomic system?
Or something else?
How do you feel about the description "consenting adults"?
What about a female employee who doesn't stop her boss's sexual advances because he controls her income and career? Is that a transaction between consenting adults?
(I never commented on legality of sex work. I was commenting only on "consenting adults" and... see my other replies.)