I've had good luck with SES. I've been sending 10,000 to 300,000 emails a day for years, and I haven't heard a single complaint about getting lost in spam. My users are fairly vocal and expect to see the emails, so I feel that I would have heard about any issues by now.
I gave up reporting spams to them because they don't do anything about it. I kept getting spams from the exact same SES spammer. I think that explains why SES are so shit...they don't bother actioning spam reports, which means they end up on blacklists.
I just use my own server for sending emails (the same server I host my SaaS on). If I did want to use an email server, it would be one that has a zero tolerance policy towards spam.
Speaking of which, I just saw a spam come in from SES and it's the same spammer who I reported to them on Nov 11. Clearly they don't give a rats ass about spam.
