All of this sounds like something you should expect except perhaps point 4, I don't think deployments need to be automated and with infra as code although that is a nice thing to introduce. I'd push for the first three points to be mandatory though, there's no good reason (except maybe in a 1-3 dev startup) to avoid them.

However, don't see it as demoralizing, see it as a way to teach other developers good practice and have a huge impact on the businesses engineering practices!