A perhaps more techie way of thinking of it is our relationships are in a mostly-LRU cache. The people we have interacted with most recently are the ones that matter most to us. If you aren't regularly resetting your place within that cache, you get bumped.
What that often means is there are people that you see a couple times and you think you are going to end up being significant in each other's lives, but then in a month or so they fall out of the cache and are effectively dead to you.
A thing I've noticed is we have a few friends that like to get right up to the point where I'm about to write them out of my life, and then they always find time for us and pop back in. Mildly infuriating, but I guess I'm glad to have them around either way.
Out of sight, out of mind is one of the key aspects of human relationships.
Absolutely. This is a great way to think of it.
A perhaps more techie way of thinking of it is our relationships are in a mostly-LRU cache. The people we have interacted with most recently are the ones that matter most to us. If you aren't regularly resetting your place within that cache, you get bumped.
What that often means is there are people that you see a couple times and you think you are going to end up being significant in each other's lives, but then in a month or so they fall out of the cache and are effectively dead to you.
A thing I've noticed is we have a few friends that like to get right up to the point where I'm about to write them out of my life, and then they always find time for us and pop back in. Mildly infuriating, but I guess I'm glad to have them around either way.
Out of sight, out of mind is one of the key aspects of human relationships.