Not everything in life has to be solved, and in fact many things can't be solved. If you do enough therapy you begin to understand the fuzzy traps of the mind, and catch it falling into the "we must solve this" loop.

Often times the answers to many of our problems are obvious (that doesn't mean not-complex; i.e., an alcoholic often knows the best way to improve the quality of their life), and people aren't dumb, but they can't commit to the "solution."

As soon as you break from obsessing over solutions, you begin to break down habits and reasons why you're in the position you're in. Which has the corollary effect of, eventually, "solving" it.

Once I got good at noticing "solution loops" in my own mind I began to notice it in the conversations of friends. It's amazing how many people are stuck in sometimes multi-year loops. And so now, for life problems of a more macro scale: I a) never try to solve anything for anyone, and b) try to gently guide the conversation away from finding an explicit solution to better understanding why they may be in the position they're in.

This sounds simple / reductive, but it's one of the most powerful ideas / tools I've discovered in the last few years.