If your friends--or especially your SO--don't have your back, it's time to move your back.
You deserve to have at least one person in your life that is always on your side. Especially for an SO, if they can't do that, get rid of them. Far better to be alone.
Not sure I agree with this. I don't want someone to have my back if I'm on the wrong side. I want my SO to challenge my ideas and to help me improve as a person, not to reinforce my bad ideas.
To me, "having my back" doesn't mean nodding yes to everything. It means starting with the strong assumption that I'm a pretty good guy. It means doing for me what someone who loved me would do. Kind of the opposite of an Internet troll. In any case, it's up to each person to set the mark.
Yeah, that's very, very true. Spent way too much of my career not knowing that.
Once had a real bastard of a boss, back in the early days of the web. I put together a prototype web site, carefully describing it as such and as never even tested with multiple users. Without telling me, he put together a demonstration that involved 20 big-wigs hitting it at the same time. Without doubt he was hoping for a major failure. Was too dumb to see that coming.
Take it from me: One whiff that your boss doesn't care for you? GTFO--immediately.
yeah even if they're great. I worked for a nobel laureate, was hoping to get great letters of rec or whatever for professorships, but all he really cared about was getting his projects funded, tinkering in the lab, and spending pennies at the slot machines. After about three years, I just left.
You deserve to have at least one person in your life that is always on your side. Especially for an SO, if they can't do that, get rid of them. Far better to be alone.