I may have an incorrect take on the virtue concept, vis-a-vis Stoicism, but felt it was more to do with reducing man's conflict with nature, learning to live within his and its means, as 'virtue'...not the 'just be great to one another' type of virtue. While there is a strong current of social interactions in Stoicism, it mainly lies with treating others as equals on this journey, and not manufacturing enemies out of thin air. I have had a few polite conversations head south in a hurry, with absolutely no malice in my words, that were simply manifestations of the listeners over-reactive imaginations. Hell, I once became someone's enemy, simply by NOT responding at all, or even acknowledging his presence. These were revelatory examples for me, because I had to retrace what could have transpired in my words or tone to evoke such a response, arriving at the conclusion: People can and will manufacture their own barriers and enemies, out of thin air, in order to cope with some dissonance they perceive. Sometimes, the problem is not you.