Do you happen to have a link to any reference material or paper explaining the technique you are describing or a term for it I can search for? I knew why this aliasing was happening, but I wasn't quite sure how to fix it.
I’d actually search for “tone mapping” for the camera / film part.
For physical light units you want to look for “lumens”, “lux” and “IES Lights” (though you probably don’t need to care about the directional profile). It’s super handy to be able to plug in real units sometimes like “oh, this lightbulb is 500 lumens, I’ll use that”.