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It's a paid leave, so you'd be losing money by paying someone to keep your kids so that you can work and earn the exact same money you'd earn by staying home.
I would rather pay for someone else to do what I consider dreck work (changings, feedings, monitoring while they sleep) while still making time each evening to spend with them.
Research has shown this to be optimal (time spent with your children later in life closer to adolescent years matters more than their younger years).
Your child is not a human-to-be, that's a trap I fell into. They are a human now, your son or daughter. We might think we're educating, nurturing them, growing them so they become good adults -- but it's the journey as much as the destination. Children deserve fulfillment in their lives too, not just a hope of future fulfillment. For a baby that means warm cuddles, soft voices, smiles, the care of those that love them -- despite their infirmity and dependency.
I think you're both missing out substantially if you think you can just jump in later after all the messy, hard, stuff is over.
