>I flatly stated my experience and that women are generally unaware of this experience.
Yes but the subject at had was, specifically, womens' experience with harassment. There was no reason to make it about you, or about men not being engaged with by women. Sure, maybe some women don't understand what men go through in that case... it's not relevant, though.
The situations aren't even equivalent. Women have a right to expect not to be harassed online, men don't have a right to expect women to initiate contact with them online.
And this sort of thing happens all the time. Almost any conversation relating to women will result in someone trying to turn the conversation towards men, or calling such conversation sexist for not including men. It's as if we're not allowed to discuss women here except in relation to men somehow.
>If you want men, who experience no initiated contacts to fully understand that women experience large amounts of harassment, might it be critical to approach them with the understanding that they have a completely different experience?
No, it shouldn't be critical. Men who don't experience contact from women should be able to comprehend that women are often harassed despite their own personal experience being different. If anything, such men should perhaps consider that the amount of harassment women receive and the degree of personal contact women are willing to initiate are not at all unrelated.
> Women have a right to expect not to be harassed online, men don't have a right to expect women to initiate contact with them online.
No one is arguing this... they are simply saying women don't understand how men experience online dating.
> Men who don't experience contact from women should be able to comprehend that women are often harassed despite their own personal experience being different.
If this is true, then women should be able to understand that a man who has faced nothing but rejection during years of online dating will begin to get frustrated, and may lose their peachy demeanor. After the 100th "genuine conversation" you have online with someone that ultimately goes nowhere, and the 1000th message you send that gets no response, you may begin to resort to "ay bb want some fuck?" Obviously no one deserves to be harassed online, but ignoring the factors that cause these behaviors is silly.
You won't change these men's behavior by telling them to just die alone silently and accept their loneliness. You will change men's behavior by understanding their position and empathizing with them.
Yes but the subject at had was, specifically, womens' experience with harassment. There was no reason to make it about you, or about men not being engaged with by women. Sure, maybe some women don't understand what men go through in that case... it's not relevant, though.
The situations aren't even equivalent. Women have a right to expect not to be harassed online, men don't have a right to expect women to initiate contact with them online.
And this sort of thing happens all the time. Almost any conversation relating to women will result in someone trying to turn the conversation towards men, or calling such conversation sexist for not including men. It's as if we're not allowed to discuss women here except in relation to men somehow.
>If you want men, who experience no initiated contacts to fully understand that women experience large amounts of harassment, might it be critical to approach them with the understanding that they have a completely different experience?
No, it shouldn't be critical. Men who don't experience contact from women should be able to comprehend that women are often harassed despite their own personal experience being different. If anything, such men should perhaps consider that the amount of harassment women receive and the degree of personal contact women are willing to initiate are not at all unrelated.