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> Now if the employee was experiencing mental health issues as a direct result of coworkers or the work environment, then yes, the company should provide support.

I think you kinda nailed there - he was placed in awkward situations where the other employees suddenly didn't have an opinion one way or another, whereas they had lots of opinions about ebola, etc... I'm wondering if therapy is even the correct word. It's more of a societal shield we all put up in various circumstances.

Sometimes I try to imagine a world where women or men, other races, would swap places with someone from an actual conversation I had to help me reveal my own biases by trying to examine how things would go differently. We should be at a place where the conversation doesn't really change.

For example let's say you're talking to your uncle about crime in the midwest. Suddenly swap them out for a black person from Minnesota. Is that conversation different now? Why? How do you internalize that so that when you speak you can speak to anyone.

Another example - tradeshows. Sometimes I hear people talking about the customer like they are a wallet - now pretend that those people are suddenly talking TO the customer.

Not only do we have the ability to see how messed up our own actions and language is, but you can now see it in other people.

I'm not saying doing that kind of thing is going to fix all problems, but it is a very good thought exercise.




> Is that conversation different now?

Well… yeah, but only because I’m going to be careful what I say to avoid stepping on somebody else’s feelings. To dance around the point just a bit - there are people who I can safely be completely honest with, and people who I cannot safely be completely honest with. I’m not sure I’m the one who needs to be doing the adjusting to change that.


Changing your conversations, or more importantly your opinions that you're willing to express based on the person in front of you - well that's just a normal trait that allows you to participate in society at large.

A tame example: I don't talk about the latest in non-volitile memory advances with my friends that I play videogames with.


Practicing debating skills on subjects you don't agree with can be enlightening. Often you will broaden your perspectives, and sometimes you find better ways to argue with how you actually feel outside of a debate context.

I try to internalize a lot of this when I find myself ignorant on a given position one way or another. It helps one to get out of ones' own box. It's also a skill that I feel too few people genuinely exercise and resort to talking louder and trying to shut people down instead of debating a position rationally. Once you lose your temper, you really lost the argument as far as most observers are concerned and look a bit like a nut.

I think too many people spend too little time in uncomfortable or awkward situations to a point where they're literally unable to deal with them. We've had a level of societal protection for our youth to a point where we're no longer raising functional adults but really big toddlers emotionally speaking.

Rational people should be able to have rational conversations with any rational person regardless of differences of specific opinion. We're at a point where that's approaching an exception and not the rule that most people are rational.


> We should be at a place where the conversation doesn't really change.

Sounds like some Harrison Bergeron bullshit. I'd rather people have different experiences and opinions but be able to calmly disagree about it.




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