I regard NetBeans as a very capable IDE. Consider that VS has, probably, lots of hand-tuned x86 assembly in its guts while NetBeans is nice and portable Java. You could probably run it on an Azul box.
I know. It's an excuse for a perceived lower performance, but it's better to progress slowly in the right direction than to rush at warp speed into the vendor lock-in you seem to have escaped ;-)
I like the Netbeans user experience, but at times I do wish it was a native app. The 'swinginess' of it can make it a bit of an eyesore.
IIRC, Netbeans was the first editor on the Mac that I found where I could just select and hit tab to indent the selection block without having to change any settings. All the other Mac apps I tried would just replace the text with a tab. Coming off of Windows text editors, it was a huge nuisance to me.
I know. It's an excuse for a perceived lower performance, but it's better to progress slowly in the right direction than to rush at warp speed into the vendor lock-in you seem to have escaped ;-)