I feel you. I actually have two kids now and am just getting back into the side-project thing. Others are right. Just plan on not getting much done for the next 4-6 months. Seriously. Focus on your family.
As to the coworker issue, realize that you'll be having those "diaper-changing" discussions soon enough. It's actually quite refreshing.
As to self-betterment I'm in TOTAL agreement. I don't typically stay with a company where I'm not challenged intellectually. There are two things that facter into my place to work:
* Quality of Life
* Professional Development
Salary is really a non issue at this point. I've taken positions where I've made less or lateral moves just because of an increase in quality of life and working with smart people. Unfortunately, now is not the time for you to be making that move. Focus on your family. When your spawn is about 6 months, most of the big issues (like possible cholic and weird sleep patterns) will have passed. You'll have to deal with teething but each iteration gets easier for the kid.
If you plan on having a second kid, talk with your wife about planning that around your entreprenureal goals. In our case we ended up having our second when our first was 21 months old. Now that he's 6 months old, I actually have free time again to work on side projects after hours. Just realize that unless you have local family support, two young children are very difficult for one person to manage.
As to the coworker issue, realize that you'll be having those "diaper-changing" discussions soon enough. It's actually quite refreshing.
As to self-betterment I'm in TOTAL agreement. I don't typically stay with a company where I'm not challenged intellectually. There are two things that facter into my place to work:
* Quality of Life * Professional Development
Salary is really a non issue at this point. I've taken positions where I've made less or lateral moves just because of an increase in quality of life and working with smart people. Unfortunately, now is not the time for you to be making that move. Focus on your family. When your spawn is about 6 months, most of the big issues (like possible cholic and weird sleep patterns) will have passed. You'll have to deal with teething but each iteration gets easier for the kid.
If you plan on having a second kid, talk with your wife about planning that around your entreprenureal goals. In our case we ended up having our second when our first was 21 months old. Now that he's 6 months old, I actually have free time again to work on side projects after hours. Just realize that unless you have local family support, two young children are very difficult for one person to manage.