In response to your edit, I don't agree that white men should be expected to endure such racist abuse just because "young Asian-American women have a lot more to fear from young white men than vice versa". It's worse for some than for others but it's bad for everyone.
But I doubt I'll change your mind about that.
The left mostly seems to want a selective silencing of right-wing voices. They defend Sarah Jeong, but the NY Times fired Quinn Norton under similar circumstances. Alex Jones is being silenced without a word of protest from the people defending Sarah Jeong. Twitter suspended Candice Owens for rephrasing Sarah Jeong.
If the NY Times wants to be left-wing publication, that's fine, but we should recognize it as such.
If you must use the "they did it first" defense, at least use specific examples from 2013 to defend her.